Love

Before I start on my new post, wanna congratulate Hansin for his successful proposal to Aiwei . Congrats to Tim for tying the knot back home in SG last week too. And also to all my frens who had tied the knot this yr and last yr. Sorry for missing all your big day. Several more weddings are on the line the later half of this year and early next year. Sad to say, I have to miss most of them too..

I sincerely wish all of you a blissful marriage and reiterate that 'Marriage is not the graveyard for love'... At least not for mine...

Believe that everyone has heard about this phrase and may think that it may somewhat be true given that married life definitely do not sound as exciting as courtship days. On the contrary, I feel that married life is actually more eventful and blissful, especially given that you are in the company of each other everyday, you can choose to do whatever both of you like together, live and grow together.

Love is a special thing, not something that words can easily describe. It's the feeling you have when you are awake and see the person that your heart lies with eternally. And it is something that you should never neglect as it is such fate that both your heart magically connect out of the millions/billions people in this world.

So, will love mellow once you get married? During courtship, lovers adore each other; they can't wait to meet and talk. They pour their hearts out using the sweetest words they can find. They are like the brightest stars shining in each other's night sky; like the oasis in the desert satisfying each other's thirst. Their whole being feel fulfilled because of each other.

Is it any difference after you have gotten married and started living together? YES and NO. Married couples stil adore each other, now they can talk anytime as they live under the same roof (provided that you take the effort to communicate and share). Married couples can still pour their hearts out using the sweetest words they can find (if they still bother). They are still going to be each other's brightest stars and oasis if they do not allow work/money/kids to pre-occupy their conscious minds too much and neglect the deep love that they have for each other when they decide to wed. All it takes is for each to make an EFFORT. It's the effort to consciously remind each other that it takes both parties to make a relationship work. No matter in what relationship.

There is a misconception by some that once married, their love is sealed and presumed and so there is no need for romance or to express it, and so saying "Thank you", "You are fantastic" and "I love you" aloud are superfluous. It is not. By expressing your love, it keeps the intimacy you had enjoyed during your courtship (when you use these words in abundance) alive in your married life. In my opinion, it is just a status change (when you get married) and nothing else regarding your love for each other has changed.

This is just one way to ensure that 'Marriage is a dream come true' from turning into 'Marriage is the graveyard for love'...

Think it has been a long post (without pict). Hopefully I make sense.. Haha.. but it's just something I wish to share/remind everyone in love that you do not find genuine love easily. It takes more than chance to bring 2 persons together and finding love; true love.

Congrats to all who had found true love! Treasure it! Good luck to all still finding it. Your love will come one day and once you found it, do not let go of it easily.

Take care all and cheers!